Book Review | Everything I Know About Love I Learned from Romance Novels

Title: Everything I Know About Love I Learned from Romance Novels

Author: Sarah Wendell

My Review:

So many people think that romance novels are nothing more than soft-core porn. Ask any woman who loves her romances what she thinks and you’ll get a much different story. True, some of them have sex scenes that are graphic. True, the older romances were termed “bodice rippers” after their overly aggressive, testosterone ridden heroes. Today’s romance novels are so much more than that.

This book is a funny, insightful look into what you can learn from romance novels. Well, to be honest, what you can learn NOT to do in your real-life romances. For example, communication. Most couples in romances don’t communicate and therefore end up in a huge misunderstanding. You learn that if you tell your man that secret you’ve been keeping from him, he won’t completely misread the situation and do something stupid. If he’ll just cough up the truth as to what he’s doing when he leaves the house, you won’t assume he’s cheating. More important, in my eyes anyway, you learn to recognize the traits of the obvious non-hero types that are out there vying for your affections.

Recognizing that the man you have has characteristics of the heroes you’ve been fantasizing about is pointed out as well. Maybe he won’t climb the rose trellis to sneak into your room for a midnight tryst but if he is willing to sit in a hospital waiting room holding your purse while you have some invasive treatment or surgery, then he’s your hero. If he stands by your side and coaches you through a long, hard labor to deliver a baby, he’s your hero. Maybe he doesn’t go for the extravagant gestures like dozens of roses delivered to your door, so what! If he’s there when you need him most, he’s your hero.

I think the author sums it up best in the last chapter – everything you should learn from romance novels – here are the highlights:

  • Romance is not all about you.
  • Romance means routine care and maintenance.
  • Romance means loving some for who they are, right now.
  • Romance means believing you are worthy of a happy ending – and wanting to give one to someone else.

Make that person who’s been harping at you about your romance novels read this book. Maybe they’ll get something out of it and start reading them too!

*I received a copy of this book to review but I was not financially compensated in any way. The opinions expressed are my own and are based on my observations while reading this novel.*


Myla is a life-long resident of Nova Scotia, Canada. She is married with two sons. A self-described bookworm, her hobbies also include knitting, painting, photography and music.

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