I had the opportunity to read a book by Polly Young-Eisendrath, PhD called The Self-Esteem Trap. On the front of the book was the phrase, Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance.
Now Sadie is only 2.5 years old, but when she was born I made a promise to her and I that I would raise her to feel loved, safe and secure in this sometimes horrible world we live in. I want her to have a good head on her shoulders, a positive attitude and out look on life and I want her to follow her dreams. I however don’t want to hand her a silver spoon and say there you go…you did it. I want her appreciate everything people do for her to help her along her way through her childhood, her school years and her future. I want her to appreciate what she herself does to help her on her way and to know all her hard work paid off.
I was a nanny for 10 years before I became a mother and in those 10 years I noticed a change in parenting from when I was a child. Parents became scared of their kids and wanted to please them and not disappoint them and give them whatever they wanted so they wouldn’t get upset and “hate” them. They were catered too. Yes loved but in the wrong way. They never appreciated what they had and they always wanted more. They were babied and somebody always did everything for them. So when they were pushed out into the world they were lost. They didn’t know how to cope and like the author say they became depressed and anxious and unwilling to take the next step into adulthood. The Self Esteem Trap shows why so many young people have trouble with empathy and compassion and struggle with moral values. This book is a must read for any parent. I am putting this book on my book shelf as I know I will be looking at it over and over throughout the years of Sadie’s life.
*I received a copy of this book to review but I was not financially compensated in any way. The opinions expressed are my own and are based on my observations while reading this novel.*