Making the decision to give a baby up for adoption must be one of the hardest choices a mother could ever make. I have great respect for these women. I think the choice must have been excruciatingly difficult and one that is not made lightly.
I became a mom at a young age and at one point did consider adoption as one of my options. I was 19 years old, unmarried and in my first year of university when I discovered I was pregnant. Of course, the shock set in right away and I was terrified. I still relied on my parents for financial support and I was not at all ready to be a mom. I struggled for months with what to do and was considering adoption as one of my options. I wanted my baby to have a good, stable life and I also wanted to pursue my own dreams. It was an emotional and painful time for me and I did a lot of soul searching. In the end, I decided to keep my baby and leave university to raise her. It was the right choice for me. Because of my past experience, I empathize with women going through the same type of journey themselves. It IS a personal choice and everyone will have different reasons for deciding to give their baby to a new family.
Whatever a mom’s reason to decide to pursue adoption, I will not judge. I know that they are putting the best interest of their child first and for that, they are courageous women that I admire and respect. Even though, I did not pursue adoption with my first pregnancy, I was touched by adoption a few years later. As an adult, my husband discovered he was adopted and that his birth mother was the woman he grew knowing as his aunt. We talked to his birth mother and discovered her reasons for giving up her babies (she had twins). She was a 15 year old single mom raising twin boys while still going to school and holding down a job to support her young family. After two years, however, she felt her best wasn’t good enough. She was struggling financially and life was very hard. She made the decision to give her babies up for a private adoption within the family and her older brother and his wife adopted them at the age 2.
Each person’s story is different, but there seems to be a common theme among moms choosing adoption: a better life for their child. In some cases, like my husband, adoption was the greatest gift he ever received. He had wonderful parents who did an excellent job raising him. That one selfless decision his birth mother made was the best one she could have made at that time in her life.
Has your life been touched by adoption? Please share your thoughts, opinions and experiences in the comments below.
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My life has not been personally touched by adoption. I think that the more people open up their homes and their hearts to adoption the better off we all are.
i’ve never had anything to do with adoption but god bless the kids and all the parents involved
Placing a child is truly the most selfless choice a parent can make for their child when unable to care for or protect them.
My husband was adopted, and knows nothing about his birth parents. I wish things had been different, but back then open adoptions were more rare.
No, my life hasn’t been touched by adoption. It is a great option for those who are unable to care for their baby.
My life has been touched positively by adoption.
I haven’t personally had to go through this, but my sister did. She decided to keep the baby. I’m so glad that she did because I love my niece with all my heart and could no imagine not having her in our lives.
I admire anyone who considers adoption for their family. I have known many people who were adopted and I haven’t heard a negative comment.
I think it takes a lot of courage & a great deal of love to give a baby up for adoption. I have many adopted friends who were given wonderful lives by the selflessness of their birth mothers.
My mother adopted my cousin after my uncle died.
I actually never thought much about adoption, and then I remembered after reading this, that there have actually been 2 in my family. Funny, we never really think of those family members as adopted. They’re just who they are – part of the family.
Me and my husband have adopted two special needs children and are getting ready to adopt again. It is a true blessing from God.
I havent been through anything related to adoption but I one day want to adopt a child.ive thought about it for so many years but im still too young (20). but i always saw myself with a boy. My first child:). I decided to do this as a “life dream” because me being an only child i know how it is to have lonely moments. Wanting family love, etc.Every kid deserves a good loving home. I want kids one day and hope to have my own but i really would like to go through with my wish and adopt. If anyone can tell me about there experience it will be great! One day ill be a mommy just not right now:)
I heard one story about a woman that was a surrogate for a man and when he found out it was a girl he backed out of it…so she just gave it up for adoption.
I am glad that adoption is an option for young mothers put in difficult situations. I also think that is great that individuals that are unable to have children have the ability to adopt children and car for them as if they were their own. Choosing to put a child up for adoption must be a tough decision to have to make but I applaud any mother that believes that she is doing the best thing for that baby and herself.
My life hasn’t been touched by adoption.
I think adoption is wonderful!! My husband and I thought of adopting a child but unfortunately I became very ill and so we decided it was not the best timing.
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I know several people that have adopted children, but I’ve never adopted. Thanks for this contest!
I commend the people who make room in their hearts and lives for adopted children . I would like to know more about open adoptions and how successful this process is
I cannot imagine how terribly difficult and painful it must be to make the decision to give up your unborn child. I genuinely have gratitude for any woman who comes to the decision to give up their newborn to a family they believe will be able to better provide. It is such a selfless act.
No it has not been touched by adoption.
My life has not been touched by adoption,but I am glad there is that option
I have not been through adoption nor have known anyone who has. It would have to be a tough decision!
Adoption beats the hell out of abortion! It is unfortunate that we have so many teen unplanned pregnancies. Aside from the obvious need to better education and care for our kids, we can at least instill an understanding and appreciation for the sanctity of life. There may be some suffering after giving up a child to adoption, but the suffering is worse after aborting the child. I could not possibly comprehend either the way any mother could, but I did have a child of mine aborted against my will, and I’ll never know who my kid could have been.
My niece was adopted and has been a blessing to our family. I truly believe that birth moms are wonderful people. It is such a selfless act to give up a baby for adoption.
No, but I predict my sister will adopt soon.
i have not yet had to deal with adoption in my life. it could still be a possibility
I’ve never thought much about adoption.
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I’m looking forward to watching this show.
I have some friends that were adopted, and they had great families. Lots of times times the child is better in an adopted situation, depending on the mother’s situation
I am looking forward to watching this. I can’t imagine carrying a baby to give it away.
My husband and I have thought about adopting after we are done having our natural born children. One of my best friends is adopted and he turned around and adopted four children of his own.
No, my life hasn’t been touched by adoption. But, I think it’s wonderful that so many people are willing to open up their hearts and give a baby or child a wonderful life.
We’re currently looking into adopting a child, since I can not have any more of my own. My life has always been touched by adoption as my dad and aunt were both adopted and we’ve always known it.
Not yet, but I’m hopeful that it will be.
Growing up I always thought adoption was such a great option for those who didn’t want to have a baby. In my teen years, there were so many pregnant teens it was crazy. Little did I know that 20 years later I am unable to have children and am on my own path to adopt.
No haven’t been touched directly, but I’ve always felt that the welfare of the child should be the most important thing in the arrangement.
YES it has, I am a proud parent cuz of adoption, my son is now 15 and I love him with all my heart, and I also love his bio mother for giving me a gift of motherhood,, thankyou can not express my graditude
NO MY LIFE HAVEN’T BEEN TOUCH BY ADOPTION BUT I THINK THOSE WHO OPEN THEIR HEARTS AND TAKE IN A CHILDSOR CHILDREN AND GIVE THEM SO MUCH LOVE THAT THEY WILL HAVE A HAPPY AND NURTURING LIVE WITH LOVING PARENTS AND A WONDERFUL LIFE TO LOOK FORWARD TOO!
Thanks for the giveaway…my wife & I support adoptions; both of us had adopted siblings, and our extended family has adopted several children.
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I think it is wonderful that a woman would give life to her child, instead of killing it in the womb.
I don’t know anyone who had to give up a baby for adoption or has been adopted. As a mom of two, I instantly bonded with my kids the minute I found out I was pregnant. I can only imagine how difficult it is to give up your child..sounds like an interesting show.
I have not personally been touched by adoption.
Adoption is a great option for someone who cannot properly care for their child and for couples who are not able to have children of their own.
Wow, reading that really made me think. I have been touched by adoption sort-of. Not with my first or second pregnancies at age 16&18 but with my third child. (we have 5 kids) My husband & I have been together since my daughter was 9 mo old. She had her biological father in & out of her life & knew him, but it came to a time when he was just hurting her more then anything so at age 12 we filed abandonment against him & after that my husband filed to adopt her. This was last year at age 12. She was so very happy that day. We all were. I think it made it even better that this was also her choice, what she wanted & she got to sign the papers saying this is really my daddy
Now she has his last name & feels like she is whole & will never be abandoned by her dad. Also she NEVER has to have ANY contact with my ex-husband!
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I have scene both sides of adoption I had a close friend who was adopted and I had another family member who placed a baby for adoption in both situations these were acts of love