I am hearing so much about a particular debate lately, that I really wanted to give my two cents. This seems to have been going on for quite some time now, and I can honestly say that I just don’t get it.
What is going on with the Working Moms Vs. the Stay at Home Moms?
What is the point of this?
There is so much open hostility when this comes up, it is shocking to me. I don’t understand why we can’t support each other, as women, in whatever our choice may be.
Not every woman dreams of a career. Not every woman wants to be at home all day with children. Would we criticize a man who has children and goes to work? Never! Then why assume a woman should stay home with her kids? Or that she even has a choice whether or not to work? Many families need the second income.
Maybe momma has a dream job that she loves. Why can’t she be a fulfilled woman and a loving mother? Maybe she hates her job, but it provides for her family. Either way, and any way- that is her life.
Maybe mom has always wanted to stay home and raise her children, and she is in a position that she is able to do that. Does that mean she is lazy? No. Raising kids is hard, whether you do it all day or not. Does it mean that she didn’t get an education? Many educated women choose to stay home. Wasted her education? Educated women make educated mothers. And again- maybe it is not her choice. Maybe it is better financially for her to stay home. Maybe childcare is too expensive. Maybe she was laid off. Don’t judge.
That’s pretty much what I am saying here. Why must we judge each other so harshly? Yes, when it comes down to it, we each feel that we know what is best. That is why we did what we did. But we all have our own opinions, and there is no need to push one opinion down another’s throat, or say mean and hurtful things. We are blessed to live in a country and at a time where women can choose what to do with their lives. Many of our sisters around the world can’t do that. We need to share the love, show some solidarity. Whatever else we are, we are women. Breast or bottle, working or SAHM, natural or epidural, biological or adoptive- we are mothers. We are women. We love our children. Can’t we show just a bit of love to each other, as well?
Samantha is an adoptive and biological mother, writer, and teacher.A recent grad student, lover of books, travel, yoga, animals, children, and fun. Always on the lookout for adventure, we have sippy, and will travel. Visit her site Have Sippy Will Travel!